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I only want to be friends with people who can tolerate my atypical personality. That way I can be allowed to practice freedom of speech. As you might know, the right to free speech doesn't equal the right to be heard. Since that 's the case, that means that you are required to shut the fuck up if someone doesn't want to hear what you have to say. In my estimation, people who can tolerate my atypical personality are more likely to be interested in what I hate to say. Therefore, there's little chance that they'd tell me to shut the fuck up.
It may be my opinion or it may be a psychological need, but I feel that I have a substantial need to express myself freely. I can't express myself freely if I associate with people who only want me to tell them what they want to hear. But I can express myself freely if I associate with people who understand that I have a substantial need to express myself freely. In other words, those who demand that I tell them ONLY what they want to hear ARE NOT my friends, while those who don't demand that I tell them only what they want to hear ARE my friends. I suspect that some people will conclude that such a policy indicates one or more personality defects on my part. And they may be right. But if this policy works for me, then why should anybody complain about it?
It may be my opinion or it may be a psychological need, but I feel that I have a substantial need to express myself freely. I can't express myself freely if I associate with people who only want me to tell them what they want to hear. But I can express myself freely if I associate with people who understand that I have a substantial need to express myself freely. In other words, those who demand that I tell them ONLY what they want to hear ARE NOT my friends, while those who don't demand that I tell them only what they want to hear ARE my friends. I suspect that some people will conclude that such a policy indicates one or more personality defects on my part. And they may be right. But if this policy works for me, then why should anybody complain about it?
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Unsu...
Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Fri, August 10, 2007 - 12:44 AMA friend does tolerate. Fuck 'em if they cannot handle your un-PC words or your uncouth opinions. You don't have a personality defect, the ones who don't want to hear do. People are too easy to conform to the majority rather than say what they REALLY WANT to say. There are many like you, myself included, who reside outside the margins of society.
Say what you want, some will only hear, others will listen.
You throw enough shit against the wall, eventually some will stick...That's how you find tolerant friends...
Oona
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Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Fri, August 10, 2007 - 7:29 AMYeah, like Oona says.
And there are plenty of us around. I've always found it difficult relating to people, because unless they have a certain, rare kind of personality type (that I can't define), I shut down and become incapable of communicating. Maybe unfortunately I've always been too nice / shy / cowardly / scrawny to start fights with shitheads. Also, I cannot stand people who do not understand (or are offended by) my alternately very dry and somewhat bitter sarcasm, my bizarre sense of humor and bizarre ideas, my taste in art, my behavioral manners, my opinions, my moodiness, among other things that've held me back my whole life.
I've known people who've come to the same conclusion as Oona did: Just throw shit at people, and you'll see very clearly who responds well. While it takes a little guts, and a lot of victims (the latter of which I no longer have), I admit it does work. After all, that's how some of my better friends found (and lost) me.
Art school was more interesting, that way. What a clash of neuroses that place was. In a way, I somehow miss it.
Anyhow, I've always held the opinion that it's the rest of the world that has the problem, not myself. Including, obviously, a lot of the morons on Tribe. -
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Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Fri, August 10, 2007 - 10:40 AMMore than half the battle does involve the fact that people do not get my dry humour, sarcasm, odd ideas, bizarre EVRYTHING about me. Screw them...Let them live in theri cookie-cutter world.
Yeah, i also found school to be an outlet for my lunacy, as some view it.
My suggestion, again, start throwing shit. Until then be yourself and let the world keep spinning...
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Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Fri, August 10, 2007 - 11:26 PMArt school was both frustrating and envigorating for me. On one hand, there were SO MANY people who were SO guarded. On the other hand, I was able to find many more people there, than at the university I'd transferred from, with real depth, and real ideas. Suddenly I was not so much of a weirdo as I'd thought; suddenly I was utterly surounded by weirdos. It was also an inspiring period, artistically. In Connecticut I'd felt empty. In Boston, suddenly I'd been reborn. I noticed that with others, too. -
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Unsu...
Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Sun, August 12, 2007 - 9:43 PMBirds of a feather...
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Unsu...
Re: I need friends who can tolerate my atypical personality so I can practice freedom of speech
Mon, August 13, 2007 - 9:39 PMHmm..Perhaps the birds have migrated..
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Tue, August 14, 2007 - 1:15 PMIndeed they have. They're very fickle.
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